Healing The Helper’s Paradox
course
Honour Yourself first, and watch the Magic flow in
No, “Putting yourself first” isn’t selfish, it’s a deep spiritual path that allows you to better support your family, your clients and the world ….
It starts by addressing the Need to Help ….
If you’ve been helping others for so long that you feel drained, scattered and not yourself, this page is for you.
You could be a Healer trying to build a healthy healing practice but it’s stuck.
Or possibly you are a parent looking for some balance, nourishment and more joy.
Either way if you have found yourself here, you likely feel some level of guilt that you can’t give more, or angry that you give SO much, and are not getting much in return.
At the end of the day you can’t keep going like this, and you know it. You are under supported, under nourished and over-whelemed.
Your heart is clear: it want’s out of the Obligation Trap, and it wants in to a life of ease and joy.
But how? How the hell can you do that?
How can you feel like YOU again?
How can you once again be natural?
How can you BE … you?
This course is designed to help you reclaim your energy, honor your boundaries, and step into a new way of being and doing in your healing practice.
You are ready for some clarity, nourishment and freedom to be and express your truth and yourself with ease!
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If this has been going on for a while, you’ve probably started to feel the weight of burnout, frustration, or even resentment.
The constant pressure to give more, do more, and be more—without honoring your own needs—has drained you. But deep down, you know that you’re ready for something different.
You’re craving clarity, nourishment, and the freedom to be you—to express your truth with ease and confidence, without guilt or fear of judgment.
This course is designed to help you reclaim your energy, honor your boundaries, and step into a new way of being and doing in your healing practice.
You are ready for some clarity, nourishment and freedom to be and express your truth and yourself with ease!
Maybe there’s a fear of being more visible online or expressing your truth. Or maybe procrastination keeps you from promoting your work, leaving you overwhelmed by the need to “do it all” in your business, family, self-care, and life.
It doesn’t have to be this way.
With the right tools and mindset shifts, you can release the patterns that keep you over-giving and under-supported. This course will guide you toward a more sustainable, joyful way of showing up for yourself and those you’re here to serve.
You can leave the obligation and guilt behind, you can step into ease and joy and most importantly … magic.
As you embrace the Magical process this workshop offers, you will feel lighter, more clear, like a weight has been lifted.
You’ve tried a lot to resolve this already …
You’ve been busy on finding a solution. You’re been trying everything you can to get unstuck; astrology, akashic records, tons of DIY courses - books - blogs, lots of self reflection, self healing and even High Performance coaching, habit hacking, etc.
But you are still facing many of the same challenges:
People pleasing that drains your energy
Not putting yourself out there
Hiding your light “under a bushel”, keeping yourself small when you know you’re meant for more
Over-giving
Feeling like an imposter. (“Who do I think I am anyways?!?”)
And no matter how much you’ve tried, it’s not working. You set better boundaries, but it’s a lot of work, and you know that isn’t the full solution.
So what is? What will it take to get back to being YOU? To being natural, at ease, joy-ful?
The thing you’ve been missing is this …
The Helper’s Paradox.
After working with over 800 people in 28 countries over the past 8 years, I’ve found that this is the root cause behind why so many “helpers” get stuck.
The Helper’s Paradox states: The more a person needs to help, the less able they are to truly help.
Wait - did you catch that?
The Helper’s Paradox is more than just a desire to help. It’s a need to help, a compulsion — often at the expense of your own well-being. It’s a fundamental shift in how you approach your work and your energy.
The Helper’s Paradox says:
The NEED to help, destroys your ability to help.
The usual approaches Healers and Coaches take to grow their business often don’t work because they never get to the heart of the problem. They often only scratch the surface without addressing the real issue: The Helper’s Paradox.
They use terms like “People pleasing” or “Over giving” or “Compassion Fatigue”. Then they take a course on those things specifically. This is a challenging concept at first. It calls into question our values, our societies concepts on what a “Good Person” is. But I promise that there is great freedom on the other side of this Paradox.
Shifting from a “need to help” mindset to one rooted in joy and alignment opens up a whole new world of possibilities.
One where you can do your work with passion, not obligation. One where you can grow your practice and impact without sacrificing your energy or health.
“I have an invitation for you:
I invite you to step out of obligation and into joy as you create a sustainable healing practice that works for your heart and your bank account”
To step out of the Helper’s Paradox, the first step is to identify the lies we tell ourselves
I know this might sound a little silly, but I have to ask:
Can you massage your own back?
Not without help, right?
This is exactly the same when it comes to identifying the Helpers Paradox, and the Lies we may be telling ourselves.
“Wil Carlos is masterful at facilitating the release of hidden beliefs that keep you playing small. If you are ready to live your best life, then Wil is the person to work with.” - Tomi Bryan, Coach, Consultant & Author of "What’s Your Superpower?”
I once had a client describe these beliefs as “the rocks I’m hiding under.”
They didn’t see these rocks as negative. They were safety. Protection. A shield from being fully seen. Even though they were making posts, doing the work, and showing up, at a deeper level, they knew they were still hiding.
”I’m living more from my true self; expanding my life and visibility” Frances Goodall - EFT Trainer, Coach, Therapist, Speaker and Author, Co-Founder of The Women’s Wellness Circle
But here’s the truth: Those rocks? That safety? It’s only one side of the story.
On the other side lies the truth. And it’s not the story you’ve been telling yourself.
Those limiting beliefs? They’re false. They’re lies.
In fact, they are pure bullshit.
The very things that feel so vulnerable, the stories you’ve been carrying, are not the truth. They are just stories. And once you see them for what they are, you can step out of hiding and back into your natural, true self.
”As of my last session with Wil, something has released that I have carried for a long time. I was blocked and no matter what I did I could not release it. After our session, it has gone. The tightness, the limitation, has released!” - Stephanie
If you are exhausted from people pleasing, over giving and burnt out from being vulnerable so much of the time, addressing the Helpers Paradox is the solution.
An essential step in the process of dismantling the Helpers Paradox is identifying the lies we tell ourselves, and the energetic blocks that hold them in place.
I have spent years, and hundreds of hours with clients, helping them to identify and then dismantle those lies and energetic blocks so they could have freedom.
Freedom to grow, heal and express themselves.
I’d like to introduce myself
My name is Wil … and I am a spiritual bull shit detective. And I have fun doing it!
I have helped over 500 Healers across 28 countries over the past 5 years.
I work with healers who want to feel safe to be seen, especially online.
I help Healers, Coaches and Therapists get to a point where they are able to be themselves online without being ruled by the fear of criticism or judgment.
My clients describe me as being a “Human Polygraph”. Truth be told, they first said “Wil, you’re like a B.S. Detector!” But I softened it to “Human Polygraph” ‘for my official bio!
I have a spiritual gift called Claire-Audience which I use to identify and clear specific limiting beliefs.
I help clients see exactly where they have been subconsciously staying safe so that they can shift from overwork to ease and fun as they be more of themselves in their business
I have delivered my signature belief clearing session with 500 people in 28 countries, and honed a direct, honest and “No-fluff” approach to help clients end self sabotage and confusion.
My Deeper purpose:
Is to help others heal their relationship with God, (The God of their understanding), so that they can build their life + business on a solid foundation of faith, self love and spiritual confidence.
What I Am Inviting You Into
I would love for you to join us for the Helper’s Paradox course—designed specifically for healers, coaches, and all those who have the deep calling to help others but find themselves struggling with burnout, overwhelm, and the need to please.
This course is a transformative experience where we will dive deep into the root cause of what’s holding you back from creating the sustainable and joyful healing practice you deserve. Here's what you'll discover:
Here’s what we’ll focus on:
Clear Procrastination and Limiting Beliefs – We will work together to clear the underlying beliefs that are keeping you stuck, holding back, and in a state of perpetual overwhelm. These beliefs have likely been preventing you from taking key actions in your business, and it’s time to move past them.
Create Divine Communion and Inner Peace – Develop a deeper sense of connection with your higher self or the God of your understanding, fostering an intimate relationship that supports you in your personal and professional growth.
Clear Anxiety, Guilt, and Shame – Identify and understand the Helper’s Paradox, the belief that the more you “need” to help others, the less capable you are of doing so. This is a powerful mindset shift that can help you stop feeling stuck in unhealthy cycles of over-giving, overwhelm, and exhaustion.
Specifically, here’s what you’ll get:
Understanding the Helper’s Paradox – You'll learn what the Helper’s Paradox is, why it’s keeping you stuck, and how it’s preventing you from stepping into your authentic self and expressing your gifts freely.
Live Limiting Belief Clearing with Wil – Clear the limiting beliefs that have been holding you back. This live experience will help you break free from people-pleasing tendencies, build stronger boundaries, and align with your true calling.
8 Energy Healing Tools for Impostor Complex – Learn specific tools to deal with the impostor complex when it shows up, allowing you to feel safe and confident to show up authentically without fear or self-doubt.
PDF Cheat Sheet on The 8 Pillars of The Impostor Complex – A guide you can keep on hand, providing actionable steps to avoid procrastination and overwhelm and keep you on track.
What You Will Walk Away With:
By the end of this course, you will:
Feel grounded and aligned with the right to succeed in your healing practice. You’ll understand your gifts, step into your true expression, and feel the freedom to be yourself without comparison or fear.
Have clear, actionable steps to transform the way you approach your business, family, and personal care. You will no longer feel overwhelmed or obligated. You’ll be free to create and grow your practice from a place of joy and abundance.
Questions?
Where is it held?
The course will be held on Zoom for your convenience, allowing you to join from anywhere.
When?
Friday, September 13th at 2PM EST. Please mark your calendars!
For the live Q+A Coaching Session, Wil will offer live energy healing for the entire group, or invite anyone who feels aligned to raise their hand for specific limiting belief clearing work. If you’re not ready to participate, that’s okay - you’re welcome to simply absorb the energy work happening live.
This is your time for live energy healing and personal growth—feel free to receive at your own pace.
Who is this for?
This half-day intensive is ideal for:
Healers growing a practice
Therapists and Coaches
Other helping professionals who want to step into their gifts with more joy and less overwhelm
For this Healing The Helper’s Paradox course, the price is just $97—a one-time offer for this session. This price allows you to get started with the course and create the shifts you’re ready for in your healing journey and business.
I’m excited to have you join us!
Ready to break free from the Helper’s Paradox and step into a thriving healing practice?
Click here to register for just $97!
This is your chance to break through the barriers that have been holding you back. This transformation is within your reach, and I can’t wait to go on this journey with you!