Why you might be looking for Couples Coaching:
You are fighting more than you’d like.
You or your partner are disconnected, not present, and it’s killing the passion + Joy.
You keep getting caught in the same negative patterns or conflicts even though you say to yourself “I know better! What am I doing?”
It’s never about the Toilet Paper
I remember years ago in my relationship fighting with my wife about the toilet paper. You see, she chronically forgot to refill the toilet paper. And, as you can imagine, it was frustrating!
We got in fight’s over the toilet paper. Or, me not doing the dish’s each day. It seemed crucial that we figure out WHY I hadn’t done the dishes, or WHY she didn’t remember to refill the toilet paper roll.
Until one fateful day I realized “it’s not about the toilet paper!” So I asked my wife what else was going on. And it turned out she was mad about my general lack of presence in our life together. I was going through a rough patch and I was not showing up as a loving and present partner.
When I didn’t do the dishes, all that frustration came out. But it wasn’t about the dishes.
What is Relational Life Therapy? How does it work work?
Compassionately confronting and showing couples what they’re doing wrong that starts the negative cycle.
Going deep into uncovering where their negative behaviors came from
Teaching people how to behave differently
The result? Dramatic character changes and relationship transformations in rapid time.
Why I work with couples.
I have been very blessed in my life with an amazing marriage to an amazing Woman. She makes it easy to love her … 90% of the time!
The other 10% of the time, I find it very helpful, necessary, to have the right skills and beliefs to stay connected and healthy in our relationship.
We still have our ups and downs.
However, because we took the time and effort to learn some skills early on in our relationship, we have been better equipped during our 14 year marriage to deal with the challenges that come.
Part of my work now is equipping couples with the skills to be healthy in their relationship, as well as helping them align spiritually so they can continue to grow together for a full and fulfilling life.
The RLT Relationship Reset – 3-Session Private Intensive
$347 total (regularly $750 value)
Are you stuck in a repeating dynamic that drains the love, safety, or joy from your relationship?
This 3-session RLT (Relational Life Therapy) package is designed to help you quickly see what’s happening between you and what to do instead.
In 3 sessions, you and your partner will:
1. Get clear on your stuck pattern
You’ll uncover what we call the “Dance” of your relationship. This is the cycle of negative patterns that you both engage in. This dance is what creates all the tension, stress, or withdrawal in your relationship.
You’ll see what’s happening and why it keeps happening, with clarity and compassion.
2. Understand how to shift it and stop the “Dance”.
We’ll name exactly what each of you can do differently to move out of the blame/withdrawal/attack loop and toward connection.
You’ll stop playing defense and start making changes.
3. Learn your most important daily practice
You’ll leave understanding the one core skill to start using right away. You will be introduced to the skill that is required to shift from your Negative Patterns (reactive, protective) to your Positive Patterns (connected, empowered) in the moments that matter most.
This is the difference between repeating old wounds and building something new.
What You Get
3 private 60-minute sessions via Zoom
Email recap and reflection prompts after each session (optional)
Option to continue with full-rate work only if it feels right for all of us
Who This Is For
Couples feeling stuck, reactive, or distant, but not ready to give up
Individuals who want to understand their role in the negative pattern and want to shift
Anyone curious about the Relational Life Therapy approach and looking for a powerful relationship reset
If you would like explore if this offer is the right fit for you, please click here to book a time to speak with me.