Why you might be looking for Couples Coaching:

 

You are fighting more than you’d like.

You or Your partner is disconnected, not present, and it’s killing the passion.

You keep getting caught in the same negative patterns or conflicts even though you say to yourself “I know better! What am I doing?”

It’s never about the Toilet Paper

I remmeber years ago in my relationship fighting with my wife about the toilet paper. You see, she chronically forgot to refill the toilet paper. And, as you can imagine, it was frustrating!

We got in fight’s over the toilet paper. Or, me not doing the dish’s on day’s that I was home all day. It seemed crucial that we figure out WHY I hadn’t done the dishes, or WHY she didn’t remember to refill the toilet paper roll.

Until one fateful day I realized “it’s not about the toilet paper.” So I asked my wife what else was going on. And it turned out she was mad about my general lack of presence in our life together. I was going through a rough patch and I was not showing up as a loving and present partner.

So when I didn’t do the dishes, it all came out. But neither of us knew it, until I asked the question.

What is Relational Life Therapy? How does it work work?

  1. Compassionately confronting and showing couples what they’re doing wrong

  2. Going deep into uncovering where their negative behaviors came from

  3. Teaching people how to behave differently

The result? Dramatic character changes and relationship transformations in rapid time.


Why I work with couples.

I have been very blessed in my life with an amazing marriage to an amazing Woman. She makes it easy to love her … 90% of the time!

The other 10% of the time, I find it very helpful, necessary, to have the right skills and beliefs to stay connected and healthy in our relationship.

We still have our ups and downs.

However, because we took the time and effort to learn some skills early on in our relationship, we have been better equipped during our 15 year relationship to deal with the challenges that would come.

Part of my work now is equipping couples with the skills to be healthy in their relationship, as well as helping them align spiritually so they can continue to grow together for a full and fulfilling life.